How do you know what your purpose is?

What makes you angry?  What brings you to tears?  What gives you joy?  What excites you?  What moves you deeply inside?  Reread this list of questions.  Pay attention to what stirs in your emotions and mind when you dwell on each one.

Let me give you an example.  When you’re watching specific scenes in movies, do you get a crazy feeling deep inside your heart and gut pulling at you.  You may not know it, but that’s your spirit trying to tell you something.

Here’s another example.  Are there certain things that happen in the world, that you see on the news, that you see depicted in movies, that you cannot bear to watch or hear?  You may not know it, but that’s your spirit trying to move you.

Your soul knows it’s calling.  It tugs and pulls at your heart and mind when it sees what aligns with its purpose.  It is telling you what your purpose is supposed to be.  Try to be overly self-aware!

Self-awareness is a powerful thing.  Learn it.  Embrace it.  And then learn from it!

This thing… your purpose… is likely much bigger than you are.  It is likely much bigger than you are comfortable with in reality.  It will push you to become the absolute fullest most complete version of yourself.  It will require you breaking out of the habits you have created in your life and creating a new level of strategic discipline in order to step into it.

YOU ARE CALLED FOR SOMETHING GREAT!

Greatness comes in many forms.  In many sizes.  Your greatness may be raising up the next leader.  Your greatness may be becoming the next leader.  Your greatness may be having lasting effect on that one life that no one else can reach.  Do not underestimate what YOUR personal greatness and purpose is and could be.

God works through people.  All forward (and backwards) change are created by and caused by people.  What we do and do not do is what write history.

What is your purpose in life’s history book?

Start paying attention to all the little and large signs.  Pray about it.  And be open to find out what your purpose is.

 

Have men gotten scared of properly pursuing a woman?

With all of this ‘independent woman’ and role reversal in the past recent years happening, have men gotten simply scared of properly pursuing a woman?  Have women gotten to the point of finding a man’s advances as wrong behavior?  I’ve had several answers from many men, and the resounding similarity in their answers is that they’re not sure what they can and cannot do any more with ‘today’s woman.’

They chase them to doors, acting insulted if the door is opened for them.  Instead of realizing that he is showing her at a higher value than himself, deeming her important enough to have a door held open for her.  Yet on the other side of the story, she claims herself online as a ‘Queen’ and on her way to ruling the world.  Woman, let me tell you something, a true Queen, would step aside and wait for the man to get her door.  She knows her worth.  Do you?  Or are you arrogant and prideful and have something to prove?  Remember, pride cometh before the fall.

Here’s a specific example: I actually saw a man’s dating profile that said, “I still hold open doors, stand until a woman is seated….” and went on to describe many more chivalrous acts. And then, at the end of his profile, he felt the need to add: “I hope that doesn’t offend you, and it doesn’t mean I’ll treat you any less than equal as a woman.”  I was immediately taken aback.  WTF?  “less than equal”?!  Doesn’t that treatment mean you’re treating her like MORE than your equal or higher than you??  Yet, he felt the need to apologize for this behavior.  This is my point and has me shaking my head at today’s society.

What if a man wants to pay a woman a compliment?  Now… let me also stop for a moment and speak to you men.  A ‘compliment’ is respectful and kind, NOT sexual or inappropriate.  Get that straight right now.  No woman, of any value or worth, will take those comments at any stage before a real relationship, or best-friendship.  Be a real man.  I digress.  So, let’s go back to my question, what if a man whats to pay a woman a ‘compliment’ (now that we’ve defined what that is and is not).  Are men today scared to even do so?  Have we become a society so bent against men as women that men cannot tell a woman he is interested in, that he finds her beautiful, smart, sophisticated, elegant, or anything else?

Here’s the thing: romantic movies, dramas, rom-coms, are still highest grossing, telling that women truly wish for this.  However, the loudest women in today’s society stop the mindset of men from doing so.  Let that statement sink in…

Us women who truly value roles of men and women, need to say so just as loudly.

Do you hear me loud and clear?

Sonya Mae… She Idealist.

What has happened to chivalry?

It is 2018.  The age of women’s empowerment!  And seemingly the age of the death of old-world chivalry, especially in the world of dating and courtship (which seems to have died as well).

Throughout history, men have traveled oceans for, fought wars for, killed and died for a woman they loved.  Men, were the pursuers, the hunters, the chivalrous predators.  Women, throughout history, were not all meek mild-mannered subservient beings without rights, mind you.  Many strong powerful historical women were in leadership and had much effect on history.  And women have been the cause of history book stories of men, more times than not.  My mother used to state, “a man may be the head of the house, but the woman turns the neck.”  haha… there’s so much truth in that comical statement though.

Back to the point of this post though…

I have been beyond surprised in today’s dating world – since I’m part of it – in the meek mild-mannered backward ways of most guys.  I can’t even bring myself to call these ones men right now.  Because a “man” acts like a man and not like a…. whatever this is today.

Before I come off sounding jaded or cynical, let me clarify.  There’s one side of me that is overly understanding and compassionate about issues men do have to deal with today that they didn’t have to deal with long ago.  Yet the other side of me shrugs my shoulder in a “yeah, we’ve been dealing with that and more for years as women!” Am I right, women?!  hahaha  You see, today, men not only have to deal with women not acting much like “women”, they also have to deal with society pushing a “new definition of masculinity” down their throats.  (Yes, women are dealing with the same reverse stereotype teaching right now too, sadly.)  All of this combined with so much else, cannot be easy to maneuver mentally or even emotionally.

I have been guilty of asking a man what his emotions were on a subject or certain circumstance that happened.  The most “manly” response I ever received was, “When I know I have to do something, I shut down emotions.  I can do difficult things.”  This is probably the most legitimate masculine honest response.  You see, men’s brains are scientifically different than women’s.  Women can go back & forth between their logical non-emotional sie as well as their emotional creative sides over and over in the same conversation or situation.  Men’s brains are split and they can do one or the other.  That’s it… each moment requires them choosing which side they’ll use.  Because THEY ARE NOT WOMEN and because of that, do not and cannot respond or react like women do and can.

Look into your history books, and one resounding lesson is women rule by balancing emotion and reason.  Men rule by logic and reason mainly purely.  They both have their place and are both needed at different times.  Each has their strength and their weakness.

Now, to spin this back into dating, there used to be more of what I’ll call a ‘protocol’ that men went by with proper dating.  There was a code of conduct… chivalry.  Dating initially was polite, proper, and in its right time and place used for information gathering and truly getting to know the other person.  If it was decided to move to the next level, it turned into chivalrous courtship.  Which usually ultimately led to marriage.  And in this entire process, there was decorum, manners, knowing the respectful timing of actions allowed, and their place of properness required throughout.  They honored women with respect and kept their crass brut side for time with other men.  They went out of their way to impress a woman upon calling on her for a first date.  They followed through when they said something.

There was one guy who actually messaged me, “I don’t chase!” To which I simply laughed, and said, “okay” and stopped any interest I had at that moment.  Maybe I’m a bit too old school and see men still as the predator, protector, provider…. and so on…. but I’m pretty sure the lion, the wolf, they all chase what they want.  And the catch is the reward.  So, if you – man – want the woman to step up and be the alpha and do the chasing, don’t be surprised if it’s not you that they chase.   Because how much of a prize is catching a man who doesn’t hold you at a high enough value to find you as a prize worth going after anyhow?  None.

I’ll use a sexual innuendo reference as a guide here to paint a visual picture.  I was having this conversation just this week with someone… so I’ll repeat it here, as it is a good analogy for this situation.  We were talking about the power play in sex.  They referenced the man’s desire for some control and alpha moments in the bedroom.  I explained how a lot of times, even when a woman takes a power play role, it’s to push the man to take it back… in a respectful way of course.

You see, there is an underlying desire for man/woman roles in most of us.  However much you want to fight it or deny it, the truth is, when you see a TRUE example of a great man and a great woman individually and together, it is awe inspiring!  This is why Hollywood is so successful.  The dream of such things again.

So, why can’t we find it?  Why is it so hard to put into actual action; the being a “man” and a “woman” in all the power that holds.  If only people realized the power in that.

 

Signed,

A lady… dreaming of a man…

Sonya Mae… She Idealist.

Take the step forward…

There is a lot to be said in life about taking the step or steps forward, even when you do not know where the path will lead.  The unknowns, for most, are scary nervous places filled with worry and fear.  However, if you can only learn to change your mindset and think of the wondrous possibilities and options that could also lie ahead, you may learn to love the unknowns in your life.

I am at this point, yet again in my life.  A path that I have wanted to go down for many years, and yet the only one I have been nervous to forge… is being stepped into.  I have known of a calling on my life since I was a young 16-year-old girl.   A platform I would build and have to make a stance that would be widely popular, yet also widely unpopular.  Things would transpire in my life that would give me more wisdom than a woman should require.  More experience than a girl should need, allowing for a greater empathy and understanding for so many more than could have been imagined.

You know, my daughter used to asked me ‘why’ things happen in life.  Why does God allow certain things to happen?  That is always a hard question to answer from a mum.  However, once I learned how many more people I could reach AFTER going through each trauma, each hardship, each brokenness, I learned that maybe… just maybe God puts some of His people through these things to be able to reach that many more.  And my daughter, being just as strong as her mum, stopped and pondered that and agreed with a soft-hearted smile of wisdom beyond her years.

I started this blog in December of 2010 just 6 months after a major travesty in my family.  For 4 years I wrote in it regularly, then it dwindled off some.  And then LIFE hit my family with a curveball, yet again… and that lasted for several years.  But on the other side of the hill, there is a new rekindling of the same fire that started this.  Yet, this time with a stronger and greater push and purpose.

This will no longer be just a blog.  And it will no longer be just me doing this.  There is a team lining up, and greater things on the horizon.  Some things will change.  However, the mission and purpose remain the same.  This time, however, on a grander scale and a proper platform.

So, I look forward to seeing you all again soon!  Keep your eyes and ears tuned in!!

Coming soon!

Sonya Mae… She Idealist

Getting Back On Your Path

I’ve been gone from writing on this blog for a long time… almost 2 years.  A lot has happened in my life & my family’s life in that timeframe.  My son got diagnosed with brain cancer 2 years ago (February 2016).  He was rushed suddenly into emergency brain surgery then endured months and months of radiation and chemotherapy, and then a year of intensive physical rehabilitation, relearning how to do everything from walking, talking, eating… everything.  I had just recently gotten remarried less than a year before that (March 2015), after being a single mom for over a decade, and that ended horribly shortly after my son’s diagnosis.  I quit my fashion design company – that I left my corporate fashion executive job to launch and was in a great growth mode – instantly & completely sending all of my employees home in order to be with my son at his hospital bedside daily, then at each doctor visit and every physical rehabilitation appointment for the next year.  It has been a very long road.  However, I am beyond ecstatic to report that we now say REMISSION and my son is doing extremely well!!! 😀

 

The day we both shaved our heads during chemotherapy.

 

 

January 2018 ~ Healthy family!!!

 

Last month (February 2018) we finalized on the sale of our home that we had bought in the new marriage, and that was the final piece for closing that short chapter in our life.  My sons battle with brain cancer, plus the very new marriage ending so unfortunately so, and the house that we had made into our home now sold, all together was a bit overwhelming for me.  I know, I know anyone can understand that… but I guess I always thought of myself being SO strong that I could handle anything and keep going and helping others.  I found that to be wrong. This was my limit.  The kryptonite to finally weaken my superwoman powers down.

This girl, who has been known since a young age, to be the one to build up everyone around her and bring others up to higher levels in their lives was not able to bring herself up for once.  I cocooned myself into work and it became hard to be who I knew myself to be.  For once in my life, I understood what it was like to battle being depressed.

I have been raised with Zig Ziglar, Tony Robbins, and all of the great motivational and life inspirational leaders.  I know all the things to say and do and tools to utilize to help myself and others.  But for the first time in my life, I simply was tired of fighting.  I was tired of life being so hard emotionally and mentally.

Have you ever been there?

It was a very hard timeframe for me.  And for my family.  I am using “was” because it is not anymore.  I had been trying to figure out how to get back on my path.  That these two years kicked me off of.

Today I was clicking through Instagram Stories of some leaders that I follow and swiped up to listen to a podcast with Ed Mylett & Tim Story.  It was the absolute perfect piece for me to hear to get my mind and heart fully clicked into the right space to reenergize myself on my path.  I want to share it with you as well.

Here is a link to the Podcast:
ED MYLETT SHOW – “How to make a comeback”

 

I had to share my ‘getting off my path’ story with you all, to encourage you not to give up either.  Taking a break to get yourself healthy is okay and needed.  I had to learn that over these two years.  To take care of myself more importantly in order to take care of everyone else around me.  Here’s the key: Even if it takes you longer to get back up when you’re pushed down by life sometimes… like it did for me these past 2 years… getting back up again period is all that matters.  Now get back up & get back on your life path!

During this rebuilding timeframe in my life, I have also met some of the most amazing people and connections that have definitely been God placed into my life ‘for such a time as this.’  I have known for many years what my personal path is meant to be.  However, I know this will sound crazy coming from me – for those of you who have known me for long – but this is the ONLY thing in life that I have been scared of doing.  Sounds crazy because I’m not really scared of doing anything.  I don’t really struggle with self-confidence issues (with the exception of being pretty self-conscious about my hair regrowth phases after shaving my head with my son through his chemotherapy).  And those that know me, also know that I’m not shy… I’m the girl to stand up and ask questions for those that are too shy to do so for themselves.  So for me to feel “not ready” to do what it is I know I should be doing, is uncanny.

Can you relate to that?

So let me rephrase why I am writing this.  I am not only is this to encourage you… it is to encourage myself and hold myself accountable to get on my right path.  Want to know what that path is?  Well, you’ll have to wait for my post that reveals it! 😉 hehe

 

Don’t worry, we will talk again soon… It’s nice to be back. 🙂

Sonya Mae… She Idealist

 

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Don’t be that guy / girl!

I am in sad thought with the amount of people that do things to hurt others. And I am not even necessarily referring to the recent killings. However those are appalling! I am referring to those in our everyday lives. People who stalk your pages just to see what they can use against you. People that falsely call themselves your friends yet do wrong against you behind your back. People who find pleasure spreading gossip of partial truth or twisted storied filled with lies about others. People that spend so much of their days obsessed with and fueled by hate and stirring up strife on purpose. I don’t even get it. It is so beyond my comprehension how someone can live this kind of life. Why can you not seek peace? Why is it so hard to just be a good person in your daily actions instead of just falsely a good person. Or just selectively a good person only to those you “feel” deserve it?? Are you God?! Are you able to decide who deserves respect or love or kindness??? 

Life is hard enough on its own. People who intentionally make others’ lives harder are the worst. I do my best to NEVER return evil for evil or speak badly against those who speak badly against me. I am guilty of being human as are all of you; of losing my cool collected composure after someone continuously does wrong to me and I do finally stand my ground against them for my own respect and to be treated decently. And I’ve not always done so with the best politeness or kindness. At times, I have even raised my voice. Even yelled when provoked beyond my tipping point. But to do these things once in a while if provoked is not horrible. It’s human. Being able to communicate respectfully as much as possible is mature. And we can all always be improving in this area. However….to sin against someone just because they do to you is not okay. Bad actions are never justifiable. Ever. It is not okay to be bad to someone in the first place. Do not provoke others to anger. Do not do wrongs to someone else. And again, it is not okay to return bad to someone who was bad to you either. 

I pray we all learn to have more love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, and self-control! Imagine how much better the world would be!!! God bless us all and help make each of us like this. 

No one is perfect. And everyone makes mistakes. A mistake is something that occurs only from time to time and the person picks them self back up and goes back to a good proper course. And I am not referring to someone who is simply human and gives into their negative thoughts or emotions momentarily in their lives. 

What I am referring to are those people who make repeated daily actions, which are NOT a mistake. Those are a conscious deliberate choice and doing so in any bad way – hatred, discord, jealousy, fits of rage, selfishness, dissensions, envy, gossip, drunkenness, and the like – is just absolutely NOT okay and does not in any way make you a good person. Like at all!

Don’t be that guy / girl!!! 

The Power of I’m Sorry

I’m Sorry.

No but’s… no and’s… no however’s… no additions of any kind.  When you just get to a point that it doesn’t matter if you don’t win your part of the fight, and the relationship is finally more important than the issue, you will then realize that your pride and principal point are not as important as you thought they were.  Especially if you are in the wrong and these words are quite needed to be said, yet even if you are right about your stance and you feel the other person should be apologizing … it is more than okay to just simply say “I’m Sorry” for any part you played in this scenario.

The power of I’m Sorry is great.  The power of staying silent after saying I’m sorry and not adding any point to be made after is even greater.  To prove to the other person that you truly genuinely are sorry for your part, is worth pushing aside your pride.  What power does it have you ask? I’m glad you asked… because the power it has is great!  It has the power to break barriers that have been built up in the argument.  It has the power to soften hearts that have been hardened with pride and anger.  It has the power to heal relationships.  It has the power to bring people back together.

This is a simple and short post to share this seed of wisdom that I have finally matured enough to speak this with full confidence to you, in the power of I’m sorry.

Drop your swords.  Drop your pride.  Simply say I’m Sorry, and mean it.  (Even if you are apologizing for just one word you said wrong, and you think the other person is more in the wrong… find something you ARE genuinely sorry about, so that your apology is pure and honest. Sincerity here is key.)

 

I love you all.

Sonya… She Idealist.

 

Be like the turtle.

James Bryant Conant was fond of saying: “Behold the turtle. It makes progress only when it sticks its neck out.”  If you research Conant (1893 – 1978) you will discover that he was an American chemist, a very transformative President of Harvard University (who almost got dismissed of that title due to his forward thinking & actions), and the first U.S. Ambassador to West Germany. It is fitting that this quote was made by a man who continuously and consistently pushed the envelope for his time.

I was talking with one of my personal friends and life mentors today, who reminded me that I need to still be like the turtle in every area of my life.  Whether you are thinking about business or personal life, it is good advice to remember the turtle.  How far do you think you will get if you stay safe and secure in all of your actions?  If staying where you are right now is your goal, then by all means, stay.  However if getting ahead is your goal, then make this quote personal to your life: “You only make progress when you stick your neck out.”

The turtle is safe when he is in his shell.  You are safe in your comfort zone.  However if the turtle (or you) would like to reach another destination, he has to stick his head and neck out of his shell.  Even though his head no longer has the protection of his hard shell in this stance, it is the only way he can move forward.  He could get hurt this way.  His head is soft and sensitive to harm in this position.  Sound familiar??

Relationally, how many times have you felt the initial surge of fear? That nagging doubt that the person you are thinking about might not like you as much? They might disappoint you, hurt you, leave you, or many other negative feelings your mind can conjure up? The mind wants to protect the heart.  The heart just wants to love and be loved.  Allowing yourself to be vulnerable is a very brave thing!  There are “what if” scenarios that is might not work and that it might work.  Is it worth being brave IF it just might be IT??  Even if it doesn’t work out… guess what? You WILL be alright.  You are here right now, reading this right now, which means however many times you’ve loved and lost in your life, you made it through.  You will make it through.  I say, be brave.

Professionally, this quote repeated on a daily basis is a great idea to push yourself on to the next level.  Stepping out of your comfort zone and into the areas that make you nervous is both frightening and exciting.  When Babe Ruth retired in 1935, his 1330 career strikeouts was an MLB record.  However he is known for establishing the MLB record career home runs and is now a legend!  Babe Ruth talk didn’t fear being mocked for striking out more than anyone else.  He just kept swinging!  Babe Ruth has some pretty great quotes to go along with this topic as well: “Never let the fear of striking out get in your way.” “Every strike brings me closer to the next home run.” “It’s hard to beat a person who never gives up.” “I swing with everything I’ve got. I hit big or I miss big.  I like to live as big as I can.”  Just like the turtle, Babe Ruth put himself outside of a comfort zone and made greatness for himself! In spite of everything.  If you keep getting up, keep fighting, keep moving, no matter how many times you get knocked down you WILL make the finish line!

Even if you do not aspire to be a legend in the public’s eye, this lesson to be like the turtle still applies to any amount of progress in your life.  So do it, I know you can.  Stick your neck out of your shell.  Make the move forward.  Make that ask for something you want.  Make the call.  Send the email.  Write the letter (I know, old fashioned huh?!). I’ve lost literally every  personal belonging & relationship simultaneously in my life before, and yes it sucks and hurts and takes some getting back up.  But I GOT BACK UP and am even farther ahead now that I was then.  I am still here, my children are still here, my life is still happy, I am still smiling, I am still moving forward.  So once again I am reminding you, as well as myself, to look at yourself in the mirror.  Tell yourself that YOU are worth it.  Put your shoulders back, stand up straight, take a deep breath in, and exhale then smile!  Now, stick your neck out for progress for yourself!

 

Coming out of my shell & sticking my neck out along with you,

Sonya… She Idealist

I’m only human…

I’m only human…

There is a new song out by Christina Perri called Human.  Her lyrics and video are perfection.  If you are anything like me… the one who’s always supposed to be strong, the one who’s always looked to, the one who put so much pressure on themselves… then you understand the idea that we feel the need to be almost more than human.  Every once in a while someone comes around and we allow them to see beyond our tough exterior into our broken and tattered interior selves.  How nearly unbearable is that moment, the secret insecurity we hold that they will no longer look up to us or think of us as grand if they see how weak we truly feel most of the time.  We are just better of not showing that to the world.

Sadly those so close to us can also put too many expectations upon us, as we build up our “more than human” persona every day to everyone including them.  And even though those few people know exactly how strong and weak equally we really are, they have come to expect our resilience and tenacity at somehow always getting back up no matter how many times we are knocked down.  When THOSE people are the ones who knock us down however… wow, that fall seems SO much harder! It’s as if they that know our shattered interiors, are able to throw them all around with just a flick of their wrists when they are mad at us.  We defintely finally feel human when we realize how tender even our hearts are.  Yes, I know, it’s a tough blow when we have to admit that we are “only human” just like everyone else.

I pray that everyone around us realizes that we are all only human.  We bleed and hurt just like everyone else.  Just like you.  Even though we seem so strong compared to the majority, we have fragile parts and hearts just like the majority.  We are great at being more mechanical in order to be anything we need to be.  Yet, even we have moments when we simply want to scream out at you, “I’m only human!”

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“Human” – Christina Perri (lyrics)

I can hold my breath I can bite my tongue I can stay awake for days If that’s what you want Be your number one
I can fake a smile I can force a laugh I can dance and play the part If that’s what you ask Give you all I am
I can do it I can do it I can do it
But I’m only human And I bleed when I fall down I’m only human And I crash and I break down Your words in my head, knives in my heart You build me up and then I fall apart ‘Cause I’m only human
I can turn it on Be a good machine I can hold the weight of worlds If that’s what you need Be your everything
I can do it I can do it I’ll get through it
But I’m only human And I bleed when I fall down I’m only human And I crash and I break down Your words in my head, knives in my heart You build me up and then I fall apart ‘Cause I’m only human
I’m only human I’m only human Just a little human
I can take so much ‘Til I’ve had enough
Cause I’m only human And I bleed when I fall down I’m only human And I crash and I break down Your words in my head, knives in my heart You build me up and then I fall apart ‘Cause I’m only human

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Until next time, I will continue being a transparent girl in this world in hopes of making you realize it really is okay to be human.

Sonya… She Idealist.

Feminists will hate me – Part 2

http://www.UPWORTHY.com is a site that I normally enjoy seeing posts from popping up on my Facebook news feed. However today I saw a post titled, “Watch The Disney Princesses Realize All The Cool Things They Gave Up In The Name Of ‘True Love'” by writer, Rebecca Eisenberg (http://www.upworthy.com/rebecca-eisenberg), who is a self-described “feminist…hoping to make the world a better place.”

She posts a YouTube video (shown below) with this write-up intro:

“If you’ve seen “Frozen,” then you know Queen Elsa has no patience for the notion of “love at first sight.” First, she wouldn’t let her Princess Anna marry a man she had just met — who (spoiler alert!) turned out to be evil — and now she’s retroactively bringing the same wisdom to the rest of the Disney princesses.  I don’t know about you, but I’ll be singing this for weeks.”

Reading, then watching this, made me overly irritated and then purely disgusted.  I agree in the basic concepts of feminism as it is written in the dictionary which reads, “feminism: the belief that men and women should have equal rights and opportunities.” (http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/feminism) However, what part of “equal rights” is a woman saying that she doesn’t need a man, and how does this statement mean that you are all of a sudden a better woman by not needing men.  When did equality mean not needing each other or that by having a man-woman relationship you are somehow not a great woman?

I am highly confused, frustrated, bothered and disgusted by this frame of mind women are attempting to push down girls’ throats.  Why is having another woman around 100% better than having a man around?  Why is having a man around somehow making you less a woman or unable to achieve things in life?  Why are you not able to be an empowered strong life-living woman because you fall in love or become in a relationship or married or even, gasp, have children?

How dare you, a society filled with egotistical insecure women, push on other women and young girls the mentality that they are better alone! How dare you find every way imaginable to tear apart the core that is a family and try to make it sound cooler to be single than a team! Don’t you know that MORE can be accomplished in life with a partner?! Don’t you know that men and women both have their strengths and weakness different from each other just in the fact that they are born male or female? Why not push the fact that we can work together – whether it be by friendship, by partnership, by love and marriage, or whatever pairing you would like to call it – and actually teach empowerment of teamwork?! If you really want equality, that comes with the Yin & the Yang, aka the man & the woman, becoming one complete unit and in doing so pulling from each others’ unique birthed strengths to do more in life than we can alone.

Why not teach men and women how to respect each other and treat each other as equals.  Not this stupid method of saying equality is somehow the same as saying “I don’t need you, and even more I am better without you!” I pray that my daughter doesn’t soak up the junk you are attempting to feed into this world.

This is NOT the way you make the world a better place Ms. Eisenberg.  This is not the type of story you should be publishing UpWorthy.  Please, feel free to contact me if you should have any questions as to what really would make this world a better place.

Disgusted… She Idealist.