No but’s… no and’s… no however’s… no additions of any kind. When you just get to a point that it doesn’t matter if you don’t win your part of the fight, and the relationship is finally more important than the issue, you will then realize that your pride and principal point are not as important as you thought they were. Especially if you are in the wrong and these words are quite needed to be said, yet even if you are right about your stance and you feel the other person should be apologizing … it is more than okay to just simply say “I’m Sorry” for any part you played in this scenario.
The power of I’m Sorry is great. The power of staying silent after saying I’m sorry and not adding any point to be made after is even greater. To prove to the other person that you truly genuinely are sorry for your part, is worth pushing aside your pride. What power does it have you ask? I’m glad you asked… because the power it has is great! It has the power to break barriers that have been built up in the argument. It has the power to soften hearts that have been hardened with pride and anger. It has the power to heal relationships. It has the power to bring people back together.
This is a simple and short post to share this seed of wisdom that I have finally matured enough to speak this with full confidence to you, in the power of I’m sorry.
Drop your swords. Drop your pride. Simply say I’m Sorry, and mean it. (Even if you are apologizing for just one word you said wrong, and you think the other person is more in the wrong… find something you ARE genuinely sorry about, so that your apology is pure and honest. Sincerity here is key.)
I love you all.
Sonya… She Idealist.